I’m so weary of the beatings - albeit mostly in online chatter - bisexuals are constantly subjected to. Bisexuality is real enough, affectionate enough, and no threat to you.
Bisexuality equals asexuality?
Does anyone really, really believe that bisexuality exists?
My many gay friends all agree that ‘bisexual’ is just a polite way of saying “rather sexually uninterested” — used for people who don’t feel much in the way of genuine sexual desire, who are roughly equally unexcited by both sexes.
Poor bisexual men and women. Some think they are as preposterous as poltergeists and perpetual motion.
I went through my bisexual phase. Unlike hasbians I didn’t repent my twofold sexuality and return to the comfortable embrace of monolithic sexual preference. A latish erotic satori showed me that there are more than two genders, social reality if not biological fact.
Bisexuality can be damned surprising
Some years after I decided that I was a faggot I found my penis moving in a familiar way in an unfamiliar place: a woman’s vagina. Nothing special about that, many - most? - gay men can have sex with women. When they aren’t being obliging they’d rather not. To paraphrase Casey Stengle: sex is 90% mental; the other half is physical.
After she was gone I’d sometimes lust after women in my heart. At least the ones on TV. In meat life it was always the boys I noticed. When I went on my online dating binge a few years ago my feelings for women became warmer. Not that I met a woman online. Came close but most of them were too nervous in the early days of cyber-dating. And the word bisexual sent the siren blasting and red light flashing.
For a short time I did think of myself as a bisexual man. The main reason I rejected the label was discovering a more adequate description in the word pansexual. I was grateful.
Bisexual people are the victims of invisible sexual prejudice. Gay men, who should know better deride them. Feminine guys who should be even more ready to accept others despise them. And they have good reason too: a gay boy who is happy to be a gay boy isn’t to be treated like a faux woman - of course boys who would be girls should get whatever they want.
